Dear Feminista,

I’m writing regarding a sex problem I have and not sure how to encounter. I love sex, and I love even more pleasing my man. I live for the opportunity to make a man not just cum, but shoot like a champagne bottle. My issue is however… I think I suck at riding him :(. Maybe its my own insecurity that’s holding me back, but I just never got the way to ride a dude like a pro.  One of the things i thought was the problem was my height. I’m 5’2 and always thought my short frame hindered my pussy to dick angle. Too many times while I’m riding his dick slips out. I don’t understand if its because I’m too short or because I’m angling it wrong.
 Another thing I thought was the problem is that I have zero form of ass. I’ve watched several porn videos and the pinnacle of riding a man effectively seems to be a fat clapping ass. Its so easy for them because they have more body to maneuver on a penis. 
Maybe I’m over-analyzing this, but it upsets me when my riding skills suck so bad my man just flips me over to do something else. I try to be confident when I’m on top, but its hard when you feel like your skills are sub par. I’ve looked all over the Internet for tips, but I need real advise!
How do i ride him like a pro??!
Not your average cowgirl
Dear Cowgirl,
Wouldn’t you know? This used to be an issue of mine!! And guess what? I have a FAT ass. So that isn’t it.
I don’t think your height has anything to do with it either because, from what I’ve heard and watched (but not experienced, as i’m 6’0 tall), is that shorter women have an easier go at a lot of sexual activities.
How big is his dick? I learned that I can’t ride small dicks. Anything less than 7 inches and it just doesn’t work for me. I’m not exactly trying to fuck less than 7 for regular sex, but that’s neither here nor there. If his dick is small, that might explain why it keeps slipping out. You would then want to focus more on the grinding technique. Instead of trying to go up and down on the shaft, bouncing, you wanna get the dick in you, squeeze your pussy walls around it, then slide your pelvic region back and forth. This will create pleasurable friction for him and keep the dick inside.
Another technique, and this is complicated so pay attention:
Have him sit almost straight up. Maybe at a 75% angle (put some pillows behind him, but let him be against the headboard). Tell him to draw up his knees a bit. You are then going to turn around, facing away from him and slide your legs under his, using his knees for leverage. Your ass/pussy should now be aligned with his dick. Slide down on it and see if you can bounce on it. It’s pretty much like a seated doggy style and gives him the ability to grab your hips and guide you up and down on his dick while thrusting from his half-seated position. By gripping his knees, you can control your bouncing and even grinding. For more fun, bend forward, put your face on the bed, and bounce your butt up and down on it.
One final technique would be to squat over it. Sometimes, women are out of shape (raises hand) and can’t maintain the squatting position for very long. BUT, it is a surefire way to keep the dick in your pussy and bounce on it. Place your hands on his chest for leverage and get your bounce on.
I hope this helps!!

37 thoughts on “Ask Feminista: I Can’t Ride For Sh*t”

  1. this just helped me. My man loves a woman who can ride dick…. but I have a very large lower body and he does too so its been difficult to get the riding right. That half seated position I'm going to try tonight! LOL

  2. Didnt wanaMe and my bf have 3 months going out so we were finaly ready to have sex so we started getting into it so he got on top of me i put my legs on his shouldrrd and he was struggling to put his dick in me he tried like 3 times n he couldnt get it in so he just said im not in the mood no more can n e one tell me y he didnt atleast get me another way he just gave up like tht

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