I’m a Porn Star… In My Head

Last night, I had the opportunity #54739583783 to reflect on my sexuality.

I was horny as fuck, laying naked in my bed, reminiscing on my most recent sexual experience.  I thought about what I did and what I could have done to make things better. I’m always looking for ways to improve so that not only is my partner pleased, but so that I, too, might have an amazing experience. My mind wanders to things some might blush about when discussing… if they admit at all. My imagination runs wild when I think of all the possibilities if we control for morality and legality.

See, I’m a porn star in my head.  I try to think of as many nasty, filthy, outlandish things I can do to my partner to really make him/her walk (or stumble) away with an impression of me so deeply embedded in their sexual psyche that they cannot escape me. I imagine that I’m as talented as some of the women I enjoy watching, capable of doing all kinds of taboo things. In fact, I imagine myself to be better than them because I’m not acting (not usually at least). I study them and often replicate what I see when I’m in the middle of a good fuck session.

It’s interesting because many people, mostly women, view pornography as inherently degrading to women. They view it as sexist, damaging, and detrimental to not only the women performing in the flicks, but also to the women watching. We definitely have to admit that there have been many stories of girls underage being in porn or girls addicted to drugs or under the heels of pimps being forced/coerced into the porn industry for various reasons.

I just don’t think those women are the majority. In fact, I think most women who get into porn do so because they want to.  I think they make conscious choices to suck dick and take anal back shots for a living without any duress or coercion. It’s just not the most respectable profession in the world. But, shit, we’re supposed to hate lawyers and tax collectors too. That’s in the Bible!

I just think society struggles with the idea that a woman who loves and respects herself would “subject” herself to being in the porn industry. And I think *that* POV comes from the idea that women aren’t really supposed to enjoy wanton sex outside of the confines of a committed relationship, not if they truly value themselves as “real women”. Sex is supposed to be “sacred” for women and if a woman is receiving money for performing sex acts, there must be something wrong with her if she can diminish the value of sex that way. People think the women are allowing themselves to be exploited because the scenes involve often degrading sexual acts.

But guess what?

That’s how *I* fuck.

Annnnnnd that’s how a lot of YOU fuck. Some of you nasty hoes love being called all kinds of “bitch” “slut” “whore” “cunt” “dirty cum-sucking bitch” “nasty dick-sucking whore” etc. Some of you love feeling used, tossed around, rag-dolled, dominated, degraded, etc. You lovvvve it. You’re pussies are getting wet just reading about this, aint it? Don’t lie. God don’t like ugly.

But there is something about a woman receiving money for these things and/or allowing others to watch her enjoy them that makes people uncomfortable. Patriarchy is one hell of an oppressive drug that we ALL smoke. We ALL buy into this idea that women are the weaker sex, the inferior sex, and are not entitled to the same rights and privileges as men when it comes to sexual enjoyment and benefit.

Feminists are generally anti-porn for some of these reasons, but then there is feminist porn.

Yeah, I know… sounds boring as shit, right? Reading further, I learned that feminist porn includes all movies that have a woman involved in production, depicts genuine female pleasure, and expands boundaries and challenges stereotypes of mainstream porn. This is completely subjective as hell so, again, WTF?

But there is some merit to the Sex-Positive Feminist Movement though. From Wikipedia, “Sex-positive feminism centers on the idea that sexual freedom is an essential component of women’s freedom”.

That is the cornerstone of what Knob-Slobbing Feminism is all about. I just happen to do more promotion of dick-sucking, because, well… the world is just better off when men’s dicks are sucked. There is factual data about this somewhere.

Anyway, look at these definitions:

whore

[hawr, hohr or, often, hoor] noun, verb, whored, whor·ing.

–noun

1. a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money;  prostitute;  harlot;  strumpet.

slut

[sluht]

–noun

1. a dirty, slovenly woman.

2. an immoral or dissolute woman; prostitute.

These words have carried powerful backing for as long as the words have existed. They are acceptable terms used to describe women who engage in “immoral” sexual behavior.

Where are the equally condemning words for men? They don’t exist. Sure, there’s “gigolo” “rake” “cad” but really, do those words carry the same weight as “whore” or “slut”? No. Of course not. The sexual exploits of men are joked about and/or celebrated while those of women are condemned and on some level, we all uphold this double-standard.

Did you know that the dictionary lists ”  call girl,  streetwalker,  courtesan;  trollop,  strumpet” as synonyms for “prostitute”? All of those words have feminine connotations. That’s telling.

My point of this post, though, is to say I enjoy watching porn and I am a porn star in my head. I encourage people to watch porn, ladies especially. Some of you want to be superstars in bed, but don’t know how. Well… how the fuck else are you going to learn if you don’t watch others and take some notes? There is porn for EVERY taste.

You might be into some freaky shit like gang bangs or anal cream pies. There’s porn for that.

You might be obsessed with Kenyan women with little bee sting titties. There’s porn for that.

You might have a fetish for watching wives sucking anonymous dick in movie theatres while their husbands watch. There’s porn for that.

All I’m saying is that I don’t see anything really wrong with watching some good freaknasty porn and indulging in that side of you that enjoys X-rated visual stimulation, while simultaneously learning a trick or two. If you don’t like it, that’s cool. You don’t *have* to watch people having sex to learn how to have sex or improve your sex life.

But it can help.

In the meantime, try being a porn star in your head. Really get into your imagination and fantasies. Dig deeper and shed some of those concerns you have about how you will be perceived. Just go with the flow and enjoy yourself. It’s ok to drop down into a split and bounce that booty on a nice thick hard dick!!

XOXO,
FJ
You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

13 Responses to “I’m a Porn Star… In My Head”

  1. I think all women should watch porn too.. I watch it several times a week… Heck I am a porn star every time I am with my partner.. I love the excitement, I love the passion behind it.. I don’t understand the up tights.. It is enjoyment and entertaining…

  2. This is my new favorite blog. You definitely are giving out the best advice in regards to women and sex. I appreciate you!!! And yes women should watch porn and not be shamed. You can learn a lot from those things.

  3. TRoyal says:

    I think what really resonates with me, in talking with homegirls and potential sex partners, is this need to express their sexuality, but at conflict with the image they want to portray.

    “I like X, but good girls don’t do that, and good girls get the ring.”
    “I can’t let him know I like X, because he’ll think less of me.”

    You’ve discussed this in these pages before. I see it as a real detriment to really finding yourself sexually and being able to have fulfilling sexual experiences.

    • ksfem says:

      It really is.
      I was nasty and I got a ring lol
      A lot of nasty girls get rings. Why? Because there *are* actually some men out there who want their whores and their wives to be one in the same. Unfortunately, there are still too many men who have Madonna/Whore complexes and impose these bullshit standards on women. Then, they are the first to complain about having cold, prudish wives, and then they go and cheat on them. Its so stupid, I can’t even wrap my mind around it.

      It is definitely a risk women take, revealing their freaky side. I wish it weren’t. I wish men could accept women as they are, without shaming them. If someone isnt your cup of tea, so be it. But women have GOT to stop feeling like they have to hide who they are just to keep a man.

      Is that the kind of man you want to be with? Someone you can’t truly be yourself around?

      XOXO,
      FJ

  4. ConshusMama says:

    I’ve got a killer porn collection, and it’s become real precise: anal. I don’t think it’s too freaky, I’ve got one where she’s working with a plus and just getting off on it…that’s me.

    Lately thought, even though I have a physical reaction to it, I’m not digging that it’s a localized type of reaction. It’s like sex with no forplay – I get with me and just hit it.

    I’m finding that I like to have “sessions” that don’t involve the porn fantasy. I’ve been getting into some different type of movements, that’s got porn more like a jump-off than the real deal.

    Unless they got porn that includes a lot of “foreplay action” I think I could really get off on some good sizzle…

  5. Finding_Mo says:

    Your point about the guys and their ‘prudish’ wives hit the nail on the head (no pun intended). I have been approached by too damn many married men who are bored with their wives…UGH. What’s the point of being in a committed relationship if you don’t get buck-wild with your partner. That’s such a waste! LOL

    Enjoying your blog. Need to go thru the archives for some more pointers!

    • ksfem says:

      Thank you and welcome :)

      I blame men for that, mostly. If these guys would stop buying into the Madonna/Whore dichotomy, they wouldnt have issues where they feel they can’t marry someone who is a freak OR feel like they can’t do certain things to their wives.

      I’ve had men on Twitter tell me they can’t cum in their wives’ mouths because she has to kiss their kids mouths with that. I’m like “What??”
      No one brushes their teeth or gargles in those homes?
      Is the wife taking a load, holding it, and then kissing the kid?
      I guess he doesnt eat pussy then either?

      Its bananas. I’m over it. If they marry women who arent on their level sexually, that’s their fault. It should not be an excuse to cheat.

      XOXO,
      FJ

  6. km says:

    Exactly. Nuff said. I have porn apps on my phone for porn on the go. Never know when you need to get off in the middle of the day or get some ideas on bondage and bukkake :-)

    • ksfem says:

      See… porn apps? Let me find out.
      I thought having 4G and a kickstand on my EVO was doing something!!

      I support

      XOXO,
      FJ

  7. DudeYouJerk says:

    my fiance watches more porn than i do.

    but shes nowhere NEAR as nasty as i am.

  8. micrns says:

    This shit made me laugh. I agree with you wholeheartedly. The lady I’m seeing currently is ULTRA against watching porn/ her man watching porn, yet is probably the freakiest nigga walking. She’s always talking about how she wants to please me better/ learn how to do the do better, yet won’t watch a tutorial. That’s all porn is, a tutorial for fucking taught by professionals. I be learnin all types a shit. Anywho, nice piece.

  9. Thus far the most beneficial website I ve readed in ages , thanks and please publish anything new quickly!

Leave a Reply

Powered by WordPress | Find Brand New Free Sprint Phones. | Thanks to Best CD Rates, Checking Account Rates and Homes for Sale