Push The Button — Full-Length e-Book Now Available

Push The Button

by Feminista Jones

Synopsis:

Nicole and David are two 30-something, professional, Black Americans chasing their dreams and accomplishing their goals while investing in a romantic future together. On the surface, they appear to just like any other couple—they travel, work hard, and spend quality time with family and friends. Behind their masks, David and Nicole live an erotic, intense dynamic based on the complements of domination and submission and the peaks of pain and pleasure known as “The Life”. They have their boundaries, they play by the rules, and they seek to ascend to the highest level of connection a couple can achieve by indulging in their deepest fantasies and exploring the darkest corners of their minds.

Life for the couple is not without obstacles, however. What happens when a force from the past threatens to destroy everything David and Nicole have built together? Can their devotion to each other withstand the trials they are forced to endure? Push The Button explores a side of the BDSM Lifestyle that often goes ignored—the “normalcy”. Like any other couple, these two have their ups and downs, and they must decide if their love is enough to keep them together. Follow Nicole and David as they love each other, struggle together, and grow in their powerful connection.

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Cover Art: Raed Mansour (photo)

PTB, as is affectionately known by fans, has been called:

Romantic.

Kinky.

Smart.

Titilating.

Addictive.

Sensual.

Intriguing.

Sexy.

 

Push The Button contains themes of an adult nature and is intended for a mature audience.

(Trigger Warnings: Explicit details of BDSM scenes; Sexual assault; Domestic Violence against women)

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#NaBloPoMo – I Have to Say ‘No’ More Often

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My calendar is filled with events that I have crunched together over the next few weeks. I am unofficially on a college tour that begins at Stanford and, as of today, ends at the University of Pennsylvania (my alma mater). I’ll be traveling around the country speaking at various schools on everything from sex and sexuality to feminism to domestic violence and sexual assault. I really enjoy this part of being “FJ” because it allows me to connect with so many wonderful people. It’s also extremely tiresome.

I can’t be bored. It isn’t simply that I cannot stand to be bored– I CANNOT be bored. The effects on my psyche and body are tremendous and I have extreme adverse reactions to doing nothing. I’m always going. Moving. Talking. Doing. Something– anything, really. When I’m bored, I get headaches, stomach-aches, experiences dizziness, insomnia, muscle aches, anxiety, and uncontrollable urges to cry and scream. It gets really bad and I’ll have times when I simply cannot break out of the “rut” that involves me experiencing all of these symptoms for days on end. So, I do what I can to avoid that and keep myself busy. (I’ve got 3 jobs and half a million tweets to prove it!).

I used to have 4 jobs and full-time graduate study (for my second master’s degree) on top of being mom to a growing child. Gotta keep busy!

My life has become routine, though, even with everything that is going on, so I began to feel the boredom creeping, lingering over my head, and threatening to disrupt things for an indefinite length of time. I couldn’t let that happen, so as the invitations to speak began to pour in, I only declined 3 of them. I made sure to accept the invitations (as long as they didn’t conflict with others and didn’t “cost” me to participate) and set up an events-packed, crunch-time calendar that promises to inject spurts of excitement and… difference.

I just want to do something different. The threat of my life becoming a routine terrifies me. The predictability of it all would be horrifying. Just typing about it, I feel myself shaking in fear and anxiety. So, I’m going to focus on being thankful that anyone thinks I have anything valuable to say, especially to others. I’m going to spend time thinking and planning ways to become more fully engaged in the public speaking arena (a 2014 goal) and enjoy traveling to new places.

Newness. Newness is needed.

XOXO,

FJLOGO1

#NaBloPoMo – In The Nick of Time (#DV #IPV Financial Safety Planning)

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October is Domestic/Intimate Partner Violence Awareness Month. I want to talk briefly about crunch time when it comes to leaving an abusive relationship. It is important for anyone contemplating leaving and abusive relationship to think about everything that goes into preparing to leave. Up to 75% of all deaths related to domestic violence (against women) happen when the victims attempt to leave or have already left the relationship and/or home. While there are no fool-proof, 100% perfect options that will guarantee safety, every victim should have a plan of some sort.

The National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence provides a personal safety plan template that one can download, complete, and store in a safe place.

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One of the things one needs to do when considering leaving such a relationship is to crunch the numbers– “Can I afford to leave?” Many will balk at the idea of debating leaving an abusive relationship because of financial concerns, but financial instability is one of the primary reasons DV/IPV victims do NOT leave the relationship.  You can read more about financial abuse in DV/IPV relationships here and learn why victims are often caught in a web of dependence and abuse because of financial insecurity.

Part of the safety plan should include saving money, if possible, and building an emergency escape stash. For some, this is difficult because abusers may demand access to all financial records, ledgers, bank accounts, etc. Even finding a wad of money rolled up and stuffed in a sock can lead to more abuse, so if you’re planning to begin saving, try to find a secure place to keep the money.  If you work, consider leaving it at work in a locked drawer. Perhaps you have a friend who is willing to hold money for you in his/her home or in a separate account that doesn’t have your name.

Figure out the cost of living where you are using this calculator. It should give you a sense of how costs will translate should you opt to leave your neighborhood, city, or even state. Sometimes, people underestimate the financial costs of transplanting one’s whole life to a distance place and may end up scraping in a way that makes going back to the relationship a more viable option than financially struggling alone.

Look into local resources that offer support for DV/IPV victims, where you currently live and where you plan to live. It helps to know that there are places you can go if you run into more trouble than you anticipated or if you simply want to feel that you’re not completely alone.

Have you told friends or family? If they know you’re planning to leave and have offered help, perhaps they can give or loan you money to help you with your transition. Some people may not be able to give you huge amounts of money, but every little bit counts. If they can’t help you with money, maybe they can help by giving you a safe space to stay or provide you with food and clothing (which cost money) as you make a new life for yourself. When it is crunch time, you have to consider all of the options available to you and not let pride getting in the way of you seeking the help you need to LIVE.

There is a lot that goes into leaving any relationship or transitioning one’s life into the next phase. Being in an abusive relationship increases the difficulty exponentially, especially considering the threat of violence that comes with walking away from violent abuse. My hope is that this provides a bit of help in the area of financial preparation.

XOXO,

FJLOGO1

FJ on @TheDailyShow Discussing #StreetHarassment #YouOKSis

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I was invited, along with several other wonder women fighting the good fight against sexual harassment and assault, to do a segment on The Daily Show. It was humorous, obviously, but some good points were made. Was great to meet so many awesome advocates that day.

 

#NaBloPoMo Back Into The Crunch of Things

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Two days after 360 crunches and I can barely breathe.

I recently started back going to the gym after taking a long break. I gained some weight during graduate school and now that I am done,  I want to refocus on my physical health and shedding some pounds. I was so committed to being a gym rat; I went to the gym 5-6 times a week. As school progressed and my schedule began to fill up with a myriad of obligations, I found myself putting myself last. Having received some devastating health news recently, I decided to get back into the rhythm of working out and losing some of this weight.

So, I went 5 days in a row and have been going full throttle. I love it, really and truly, but love hurts… sometimes. My inner thigh is sore and my abs would scream if my vocal cords were a bit lower. I have more energy, though, and that makes for better days (which are now more fully booked than ever before).

I’m in a loving competition with my boyfriend. We are trying to each lose 20lbs and see who can lose it first. We know that men and women lose weight differently, and I think we both want to lose more than 20lbs, but it is the friendliness and fun of the competition that keeps us going. We both want to be healthier and we know we’ve put on some weight since we’ve been together. Sometimes, couples struggle with having honest conversations about weight gain/loss because no one wants to offend the other. However, when you care about each other and want each other to be healthier, you have to have the difficult conversations and offer each other support.

We’re both extremely busy with careers, families, and the obligation of changing the world. We both tend to neglect ourselves and adapt poor eating and sleeping habits. We agreed to be more intentional, not just for ourselves, but for each other. I want to live as long as possible and I know he does too. We want to live long together, so, we’re working on this together.

It’s “crunch time” for me, but in a ME ME ME way. I’m making the time to focus on getting to the gym and doing one of the things I love most– exercise.

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