October 10th, 2012 
Feminista Jones With growing acceptance of relationships between Older Women and Younger Men, I decided to weigh in on the trend with my own thoughts and some statistics.
Are you a younger man who prefers older women? Tell us why!!
Are you an older woman who dates younger men? Share your story!!
One of my readers asked for advice on this very topic and I helped him out. Read more here…
Posted in Dating 101, Fucking, Men, Generally Speaking, Relationship Matters, Sex Talk, Women, Generally Speaking 
Tags: cougars, dating, older women, relationships, sex, younger men
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I noticed a couple of other downfalls I’ve had with older women that I’ve heard from other people as well.
1.) An older woman I dated before seemed to devalue my opinions, and used her age as a way to validate her views and downplay mine. You mentioned that younger guys may want to learn from older women, and that’s true – but in situations like the one I just said, you begin to grow resentment for the older woman. No one wants to feel like their opinion isn’t valued, especially in a romantic relationship. I’ve seen those issues with older men and younger women, too.
2.) I also dealt with a different older woman who I liked, but she seemed insecure about how her age would relate to our situation. She would constantly ask me if I would be uncomfortable if we’re hanging around my friends, and I was fine with it at first, but when she kept bringing it up, it became a turnoff. Probably more isolated than the first one, but thought I’d bring it up.
I’ve dated several women who were older than me. From 2-14 years. it begn as an attempt to get away from some of the bullshit that women my age and yougenr threw my way. I figured I started dating a woman who was a few years my senior, I’d be dealing with someone who was more mature, experienced and intelligent. I was dead wrong. There are a few differences in dating older women than women my age or younger. For the most part, it’s the same. Good and bad. several of the older women I dated were incredibly insecure about their age when dating me. Expecting me to run off with some younger woman. bothered by what other people would think and telling me that I should meet someone my age so I can have kids and get married.
One thing I can say that I love about most of the older women I’ve dated is, as you pointed out, Ms. Jones, they seem to be more direct. i always know where I stand with them and I always know what they want out of the situation as opposed to the passive aggressive bs that I’ve had to sift through when dealing with women my age.
I’ve always been attracted to older women. For the most part it’s the forbidden-ness of it all. The fact that like you said, society says that I can’t have you(older women) and that I can’t make you want me. I also like that most older black women are usually very knowledgeable about a lot of things and we have the opportunity to mindf^ck one another. Learning and taking in another’s own experiences is a turn on for me; older women usually have more life experiences. I just believe that smart and witty women f^ck better. The directness is also a turn-on. I have always been pretty mature for my age and thought to be older than I(21) am anyway so it’s a easy to crossover. Usually they find out my age, are shocked, and commence to entertaining a young cat. Great blog btw
I’ve had relationships with women older and younger and from different “genres” (if you will) diva, afrocentric, hood, professional etc…
and ONE THINGS FOR SURE is that they ALL have some womanly type bullshit that they’re gonna bring to the table.
I’m not faulting them because “it is what it is” and it’s to be expected because EVERYBODY has a brand of sad sack beuowlshit that accompanies them (unfortunately). It just ensured me that NO MATTER what type of woman you deal with, there’s GONNA be some BEUOWLSHIT involved.
GOOD THINGS ABOUT OLDER & YOUNGER WOMEN
OLDER WOMEN ARE…
More direct
More confident in their choices
USUALLY are beyond the phase of acquiring as much sex as they can get abroad (from multiple partners)
Have a MONSTROUS SEXUAL APPETITE! (great for mono y mono relationships!)
MORE outgoing
YOUNGER WOMEN ARE…
MORE energetic
Sometimes a little more fun due to their youthfulness
Still can be taught about themselves mentally and physically
BAD THINGS ABOUT OLDER/YOUNGER WOMEN…
OLDER WOMEN ARE…
USUALLY Stuck in their ways (detrimental for further growth)
Racing against conceptual living and biological clock timing(pressure on relationship status,marriage,kids)
CAN BE stuck on material items
YOUNGER WOMEN ARE…
Usually worried about what EVERYBODY ELSE IS GONNA THINK OF THEM!
Uncertain of what they want and or need in and for a relationship
(SOMETIMES) dont know what satisfies them sexually or are afraid to learn new tactics
CAN BE stuck on material items
I consider myself to be the most STRESS FREE person on the planet Earth walking on two legs!
I’ve learned to take the good with the bad when it’s worth it and to coerce her to keep the BEUOWLSHIT at a MINIMUM to NONE!
Ive also learned to realize that if she CONTINUES to keep a bunch of drama goin on to GET OUT OF DODGE the 1st red flag that appears because she ENJOYS IT! (something that MOST women WONT admit to)
If you CONSTANTLY entertain something, it means that you LIKE IT or else you WOULDN’T DO IT so unless you LIKE relationships with turbulence and drama, you should DIP the 1st chance you get in order to save yourself a headache!